Using Tinder features such as Dating Goals and Relationship Types, Gen Z are being clear in communicating what they want and are dating more intentionally. They’re looking for meaningful connections, in whatever form (and wherever) that may be, and they are carving their own path.
Counseling psychologist and co-founder of MasterPeace, Faii – Kanthaporn Suansilaphon, shares that successful relationships start with personal growth. According to Tinder’s Modern Day Dating in Thailand survey*, working on personal growth and well-being is ranked as the third most important goal for Thais in the next three years, and by focussing on self-understanding and emphasising “me” in the dating process, individuals can have better communication and foster deeper connections, and healthier relationships. Here are five key pieces of advice from Faii to get you started on the journey to a meaningful and healthy relationship:
1) Embrace flexibility
Let’s face it, relationships are full of surprises! Sometimes, things don’t go as planned, and that’s OK. Before jumping to conclusions or overinterpreting the situation, make sure you set realistic expectations. The key is mastering your emotions – focus on your own emotions and thoughts first, then talk it out with your partner and discuss how to adjust and grow together when there are unforeseen moments or problems.
2) Emotional well-being is key
Anxiety and worry are like little warning signs, and can lead to conflict if you are emotionally unavailable. They can help to remind you of what matters to you, so dive into some self-exploration by asking yourself, What’s really making you anxious? Listen to your feelings without any judgment, then break it down to identify what you can control and what you can’t, then focus on what you can change. This will help you to more effectively address the issues.
3) Pause sometimes to take care of your heart
No, this doesn’t mean to stop talking to your partner. During the relationship, if your heart starts to feel heavy, then consider some me time and engage in activities that promote emotional healing. Try journaling to explore your worries, chat with a trusted friend, and focus on the present. Self-care will help you feel empowered and ready to handle things better!
4) Self-esteem and confidence matter!
Self-worth is key to healthy relationships. Try to understand your needs, communicate openly, and respect boundaries. Build confidence by reflecting on how you’re valued and respecting yourself. Prioritize self-care and avoid comparing yourself to others. Remember, love yourself first before giving love to others!
5) It’s the art of letting go and moving on that leads to growth
Remember that no feeling remains the same throughout. Whether it’s good or bad, they come and go! Give yourself the time to move forward and take the lessons from the past to make your future even better. Reflect on what you’ve learned about yourself and what you truly want. This self-awareness will help you create stronger, more meaningful connections. When you’re ready, let new relationships grow naturally, but always make sure they’re built on trust – that’s the secret ingredient for success!
* Survey of 1,000 18-25 year olds polled in Thailand in July 2024, conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Tinder.